Thank you so much for this essay, chastie.  I will be asking slave r for his perspective being owned, dominated and  humiliated in real time by Ms G.

Inside the Mind of a Chastity Slave

a personal perspective by chaste4MsCass

What’s the big deal about chastity? Why deny yourself one of nature’s most exquisite pleasures when it’s not illegal, it doesn’t do you any harm, and so long as you do it privately you’re not going to offend anyone?

People usually deny themselves something, or something is denied to them, for 3 main reasons:

· it’s bad for them – smoking, alcohol, chocolate, hamburgers, skydiving

· it’s illegal – drugs, driving fast

· it’s against their beliefs – eating pork, working on the sabbath

But masturbation doesn’t fall into any of these categories. I haven’t yet seen someone who was struck down by lightning or who went blind from it. And you never get bored of masturbating – it’s like a glass of champagne that always refills itself.

Historically of course, chastity was something that medieval nobles imposed on their wives (or more usually, their mistresses), who would be locked in an iron chastity belt while their lord and master went off to fight in the crusades. Male chastity is a more recent phenomenon and is motivated by completely different reasons.

So why do it? I think that there are two types of male who are into chastity:

There’s the male who likes chastity because it heightens the physical experience. Tell someone that they can’t do something and it just makes them want to do it more. It’s like the kid who is told that he can’t go out and jump in the puddles. There’s also a physiological aspect because the denial increases the potency of the orgasm.

Then there’s me. The physical aspects of chastity are not that important to me, but the part that chastity plays in the relationship with my Mistress is absolutely crucial.

But before that a little background.

Early experiences

i definitely have a subservient streak when it comes to women – certain types of women. i don’t know why, but fetishes are coded into our genes to some extent or another and i happen to get off on being under the control of intelligent, assertive women. When i was 8 or 9 i used to play with the 2 girls next door. They were slightly older than me and i have now idea how this all got started, but one day they decided it would be a good idea if they locked me up in the basement while they went off to play. i found it really exciting, although at that time it wouldn’t have been sexual excitement.

The next visible example was over 10 years later (i was still single) when i was at a party with some friends from work. We were sitting around chatting, the drink was flowing, and the wife of one of the guys from work was sitting on the floor next to me. i was attracted to her because she was tall and slim with a sharp intellect and we soon got talking. After a while, for some reason, i picked up her foot and started kissing it, right in front of the husband! i had had quite a lot to drink so i don’t remember how long this went on for, but it was probably about an hour. The really strange thing about this incident is that the husband never said a word to me – not at the time, nor at any time afterwards. But no one else who was there ever let me forget it!

Another 10 years passes, and a girl i knew who had just left her husband moved in with me. i had always been attracted to her – she fell into that category of woman that i love: tall, sexy, attractive (although not in a classic sense), confident, and frighteningly intelligent. Women like that tend naturally to be assertive. Turned out that she was attracted to me too. It didn’t last that long, about 3 years, but i was devoted to her and i was never happier than when i was running around doing things for her. She liked to take charge of things in the bedroom (and on the balcony, in the kitchen, in the elevator, the park – you get the picture). It was a very volatile relationship but i loved every second that i was with her.

Present day

So the seeds of subservience were clearly there. How does that fit in with chastity? As i said, for me, the physical aspects of chastity are not really that important – it’s the surrender of total control, to someone you worship, of the most precious thing that makes a man a man – his cock. Or what i should say is ÒHer cockÓ, because it doesn’t belong to me any more. Not since i met Mistress Cassandra.

Mistress Cassandra is one of those special women that i encounter every 10 years or so, and She fits in that category of women that i love. Actually, Mistress Cassandra has completely redefined the category and if you’ve seen Her photographs, seen Her in the chatroom, or spoken to Her on the phone you’ll know exactly what i mean. i’ve written many blogs on why i’m attracted to Her, so i won’t repeat it all here, but i have included at the end of this piece links to those blog entries for further reading.

Chastity can be in the form of simple denial – “I promise not to cum until you say so” – and it can be in the form of a physical constraint, like a chastity belt or a cock cage. The physical version can be on an honor system, where the wearer holds the key or the key is plastic, and it can be on a strict system where the lock is metal and a keyholder holds the only keys. Personally, i prefer the strict system, not just because it eliminates any temptation, but mainly because it proves to my Mistress that I have been totally chaste for Her. i don’t want Mistress Cassandra ever to think that i have been cheating, and that’s why in more recent programs W/we have gone to extreme lengths to make it nearly impossible for me to remove the cockcage.

To me, the cockcage is crucially important. It’s evidence of my chastity, but more importantly it is a symbol of my surrender to The Dicktator.

Some people might say that i’m demeaning myself by submitting to a woman – those people are Neanderthals. People respect (respect/worship, call it what you will) great leaders (IÕm using that in a general sense) – people who are incredibly successful at what they do, have the charisma, the drive and energy, to motivate other people to achieve their best. The fact that that person is a woman doesn’t make any difference to me. Why shouldn’t i worship someone like that?

Where to from here?

i have been talking to The Dicktator for exactly a year now. In fact, the day that i’m writing this is the first anniversary of O/our very first call (7th January 2007). In that year W/we have tried a lot of things and this last program has been in the works for 3 months – it is the most complicated that W/we have done to date. What’s the next program? To be honest i don’t really know. What i do know is that i enjoy talking to The Dicktator immensely, that W/we have a lot of fun on the phone, and that there is a strong friendship there. And knowing The Dicktator the next program is only around the corner!

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